As a notorious non-dancer, it’s my duty to inform those who do dance that the worst thing you can do is pressure a wallflower. The more attention drawn to our participation, the less likely you are to see so much as a foot tap or head nod from us. I assure you that we’re not out to ruin the energy or good vibes. We’re just trying to save ourselves a significant amount of embarrassment. Really our remaining posted against the wall is doing you a favor.
Think of how many people have sat next to you on a bus, train, whatever. Now think how many people have sat next to you on purpose with their fingers crossed in hope that you’ll talk to them. I’m sure somebody has. There’s plenty of times when somebody’s seen you and hoped that you spoke to them, but you never did because you don’t have the guts and neither do they. Don’t go around thinking nobody likes you and that you’re not loved. There’s been plenty of times when a stranger has spotted you and thought “Oh, they’re just my type” but haven’t had the courage or confidence to open their mouth and initiate a conversation. The funny thing is, neither have you.